Understanding obedience and discipline

Obedience is implied, discipline is explicit, that’s the general basis of a definition i am going to explore. The reason for going in this direction is a common struggle many submissives feel, a lack of direction or difficulty to maintain … Read More

Putting boys in blue

I remember going to a store with my mother and she wanted me to pick out wallpaper. It would be too expensive to decorate the whole room, so it was just a trim at the ceiling i was choosing, and … Read More

Trying things on for size

I used to write erotica from both sides of the D/s perspective in the hopes of understanding the value of each. I couldn’t fathom how anyone would want to be my Dominant, and what they would gain from it.

When … Read More

BDSM Psychology – The Benefits of Kink

I decided to focus my research around the benefits of participating in BDSM from an emotional and mental state of well being, what the psychological effects are, and how to get the most out of BDSM to promote a healthy … Read More

Pretty cocky

It’s a dilemma many submissives face, how much of their personality to let shine through, how much control is too much control to asset within a D/s negotiation. The extremes are well known and often presented, slaves with no limits … Read More

Drop the act

I used to take pride in my ability to conceal thoughts, as someone who does not easily display emotion i would often hear others comment about how they could not tell what i was thinking. It gave me an incredible … Read More

The ability to improvise is a sub-surprise

Taking initiative can be an empowering experience for a submissive if they have the trust of their Dominant. There are so many questions a submissive asks before making an independent decision on behalf of themselves and their D, but the … Read More