Struggle all you want

Whatever your kinks, your role, your current status, you will struggle. What did you expect? I started into the lifestyle because i was complacent, allowing things i had determined as needs to go unfulfilled and desires to go unexplored. So it’s no surprise there will be days where we struggle, the amazing thing about BDSM […]

What did you expect?

It goes without saying what you thought of the BDSM community is not what you found, and what you thought you would like is different from reality, and the journey is something that takes a life of its own. Those are the given inconsistencies, but others can be much more easy to spot, the expectations […]

D-types and their lists

There is a common misconception that Dominants instinctively know what to do and have the memory of elephants. Many make claims to support this theory, but the truth is the most involved and experienced Dominants usually set goals and challenges for their subs because they have the same expectations for themselves. Many submissives view the […]

Smooth skin secrets

I’ve done research and according to everything i have read my daily routine in the shower is as good as i can do for taking care of my skin, but i feel like there are tips and tricks out here i don’t know about. If you’re reading this if you have any, please share. My […]

Whack a moles and glorious holes

Trying new things can be… trying. I love surprises, i am also the type of person who learns from hands on experiences and trial and error. In seeking out new experiences, i tend to look for things that are attainable, but even experiences that are easily within reach and be difficult and have obstacles. I […]

Looking through the finer details

It’s common for submissives to become passive when it comes to understanding what is behind many of the finer details of BDSM. In part this is due to a desire to be given permission to experience it fetishes, or seek only details that are of interest to a Dominant. Research however, is important in BDSM […]