pain

Laughing through pain

I’ve known many who when confronted with pain, react immediately with uncontrollable laughter. I have also seen it described in various forms as a nervous reaction but the reasons given point to something much deeper. Nervous laughter itself is both … Read More


BDSM Psychology – The Benefits of Kink

I decided to focus my research around the benefits of participating in BDSM from an emotional and mental state of well being, what the psychological effects are, and how to get the most out of BDSM to promote a healthy … Read More


The delicate nature of ribbons

Bows can be so pretty, but ribbons don’t always stand for joy. Something seemingly delicate and frail can hold so much power if placed on a pedestal. 

Holding together important gifts and garments ribbons can bind and prevent things from … Read More


“The slave contract” What Happens Next

Mistress doesn’t like restraints. She likes to order Her subs to stand there, hold their position while She tortures their body with various implements of mass destruction. Floggers, whips, canes, paddles?? Not in this case, just 6 inches black Louboutin Read More


That’s not your job

Submissives in D/s relationship often feel the need to take responsibility over the happiness of their Dominant. It has nothing to do with topping from the bottom, or taking control, you can’t be responsible for your D’s happiness because it’s … Read More


Take me like a princess

Delicate things need to be handled with care, to be honest i consider us all delicate things. There are a lot of romantic themes in BDSM, chivalry and tradition in etiquette and protocol, sacrifice and duty in selflessness and … Read More


The “manly man” What Happen Next

Securely fastened to the hard wood pole, splinters digging into his back with each move. The hemp rope digging it way into his chest with each breathe he takes, running down and under his painful swollen balls and back up Read More


Processing Pain

I often hear submissives and bottoms troubled by the fact that they can’t take as much pain as other people they see playing. A good bit of what we do in this lifestyle involves some type of pain in some … Read More


Shocks and Triggers – Why the intense response

Without warning our circumstances can change, and without notice or premeditation our bodies and minds can swing in dramatic ways. There is a moment between realization and reality, between a physical exertion and pain, when our minds lose the ability … Read More


On being an open book

I am addressing all of you who choose to read this, and i am thankful that you do. Recently i started posting my blog publicly and not just to our Dungeon website, a trove of information about our private Femdom … Read More