mindset

Understanding obedience and discipline

Obedience is implied, discipline is explicit, that’s the general basis of a definition i am going to explore. The reason for going in this direction is a common struggle many submissives feel, a lack of direction or difficulty to maintain … Read More


Slip not

I have conducted a lot of interviews professionally and one of the easiest questions to answer is what are your weaknesses, but it’s a farce – the question should be ‘what are you hiding?’ There are other ways to get … Read More


Weekly Topic: Rope

We will be spending our time learning and practicing various types of rope ties. The submissives will research different types and styles before practicing and ensuring safety is a consideration.There will be components of leg, crotch and chest ties, Bryan … Read More


BDSM Psychology – The Benefits of Kink

I decided to focus my research around the benefits of participating in BDSM from an emotional and mental state of well being, what the psychological effects are, and how to get the most out of BDSM to promote a healthy … Read More


Pulling away – how to manage time off

Taking time off is important, whether it is a few hours a day, a few days, or an extended period of time, it helps us recalibrate, recharge, and gives us perspective and appreciate what we have to come back to. … Read More


The ability to improvise is a sub-surprise

Taking initiative can be an empowering experience for a submissive if they have the trust of their Dominant. There are so many questions a submissive asks before making an independent decision on behalf of themselves and their D, but the … Read More


The calm before

My mindset is such that i promote the positive and it is an ongoing dialogue – so yeah, you’re not alone in talking to yourself. If you read out loud in your head however, then you should really  consider… just … Read More


Welcoming Potential Dommes

#DivasDungeon

Being a lifestyle Domme is more than just a role to be played in the bedroom. What does it look like when your Domme role is actually applied to day-to-day life as well? We can show you.

For us, … Read More


Processing Pain

I often hear submissives and bottoms troubled by the fact that they can’t take as much pain as other people they see playing. A good bit of what we do in this lifestyle involves some type of pain in some … Read More


Stripping the milk for free

The anonymity of social media has led to new behaviours and created new norms that we accept as a society – though happily most of them have not made their way into our mainstream lives. The pervasive ‘dic pic’ for … Read More