Processing Pain

I often hear submissives and bottoms troubled by the fact that they can’t take as much pain as other people they see playing. A good bit of what we do in this lifestyle involves some type of pain in some … Read More

Active vs Passive Submission

Active submission means that a sub is actively engaged with their Dominant. This can be done though negotiation, scene planning, doing extra things above the expectations to make their Dominant happy. They understand that a dynamic is a journey and … Read More

Roles in life similar in BDSM?

A person who is Dominant or submissive in ‘real life’ will prefer a similar role in BDSM

The Myth

Personality Types and Their Roles in BDSM

I have heard the argument both ways, that Dominants and submissives are determined by … Read More

A Guide to Impact Play

Before engaging in impact play, there are a couple considerations, and some essential items to ensure safety as well as enjoyment.

Warm Up

As with any BDSM activity, start low and slow, especially with impact play. Sudden sharp blows without Read More


 largely understudied fetish, dacryphilia can often be broken down into 2-5 subcategories (depending on who you ask).

1.sexual arousal from someone displaying strong emotion
2.sexual arousal from the emotional release that accompanies crying (i.e., an emotional catharsis).

There are a … Read More